FATHER’S DAY AND NEIGHBORING
June 2023
Deana Tucker Dothage
Deana
Tucker, Seibert Tucker
When I was a
young child, my dad lived on a lake in Illinois. He spent most of his time with
my brothers when he was not at work. I was with them on weekends, holidays and
summer weeks, some of the happiest times of my life. We were outside grilling,
shooting soda cans, riding motorcycles, hiking, selecting Christmas trees, playing
with the dog, and my favorites, boating and fishing. When I was 13, a drunk
driver hit our dad head on, while traveling across an Illinois bridge. It was so
devastating to my brothers and me. A destructive loss that has cost us more
than one can imagine.
What does
this have to do with neighboring?
My next door
and nearby neighbors in St. Charles surrounded me with kindness and friendship.
My neighbors took care of me, which also helped my mother tremendously. These neighbors were my friends. Their
siblings and parents included me in family events and even daily life. I keep
in touch with many of them 50 years later.
My
neighborhood church youth group and choir friends and their parents treated me
well and included me in family and church activities. The same is true of school friends, many of
whom I still visit and correspond with today.
When I was
14, my 19-year-old brother was killed in a car crash. Once again, my St.
Charles friends, my brothers, and my dad & brother’s Illinois friends,
rallied around me in support.
With social
media, I’ve been able to keep in touch easily, and reconnected with people from
those days.
Keeping in
touch became a way of life for me. This year, I’m organizing another annual
high school alumni event, coinciding with our 45th class reunion. This
event and evolving friendships with those high school people have made a
difference in my life. High school alumni have often told me how much they
value the reunions & alumni events, because school friends & memories
were important to them too.
So what does
neighboring have to do with this story? The acts of love & kindness from my
brothers, my neighbors, my church, school, and Illinois friends were critical
in my survival. It was instilled in me to connect with people and to reach out
to people in distress, especially from tragedies. These people molded me in
many ways. I’ve had some bumps in my
road, but always, people have supported my journey through life. My careers (law
enforcement, insurance claims, insurance agency, church office manager,
mobility coordinator, traffic safety professional and now extension engagement
specialist in community development) have all focused on helping, protecting,
and educating people.
Being a part
of the Engaged Neighbor program is full circle for me. It is an honor to be a
part of a program that encourages kindness. I want to be the kind of neighbor
that my neighbors were to me when I needed them the most. Acts of kindness and
neighboring teaches other to do the same.
There are amazing men out there who look out for people without fathers.
Happy Father’s
Day to Fathers and to all men who play a role in the lives of children and
adults around them.
Deana Tucker
Dothage, MPA
Extension
Engagement Specialist in Community Development
MU Extension in St.
Charles County
260 Brown Road | St. Peters, MO 63376
O: 636-970-3000 | E: dothaged@missouri.edu
W: https://extension.missouri.edu/counties/st-charles
How do
you pronounce Deana Dothage?
Missouri
Good Neighbor Week is Sept. 28 - Oct. 4: http://missourigoodneighborweek.com
Enrollment
open for Neighboring 101: https://extension.missouri.edu/events/introduction-to-neighboring-101-2023
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